Our Services
Individual Therapy
We provide individual therapy services in New York and Connecticut to support personal growth and mental well-being. Our therapy sessions are tailored to help individuals build stronger relationships, navigate emotional challenges, and achieve lasting change. Some key areas we address in individual therapy include:
- Depression treatment to improve mood and emotional health
- Anxiety management techniques to reduce stress and worry
- Betrayal trauma recovery for emotional healing
- Relationship readiness counseling, focusing on healing past hurts and preparing for healthy connections
- Support during relationship transitions, including ending a current relationship
- Skill-building for relationship improvement, such as communication and conflict resolution
- Healing childhood trauma to foster resilience and self-esteem
- Recovery from narcissistic abuse in relationships
- Addressing challenges with narcissistic parents (e.g., mother, father)
- Guidance for navigating narcissistic divorce and its aftermath
- Emotional support during and after divorce
- Understanding and coping with emotionally immature parents
- Recovery from trauma bonds to regain independence and emotional health
Couples Therapy
Premarital Counseling
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I strongly encourage couples in New York and Connecticut to consider premarital counseling as an essential step in preparing for marriage. Premarital counseling is a proactive way to invest in a strong, healthy, and successful relationship. Research consistently shows that couples who participate in premarital counseling are more likely to build a lasting, fulfilling, and happy marriage.
Benefits of Premarital CounselingOur premarital counseling services in New York and Connecticut help couples identify potential challenges and develop tools for navigating them effectively. Key areas of focus include:
Benefits of Premarital CounselingOur premarital counseling services in New York and Connecticut help couples identify potential challenges and develop tools for navigating them effectively. Key areas of focus include:
- Understanding the impact of past experiences on current relationship dynamics
- Building a strong foundation of commitment and trust
- Setting individual and shared goals for the future
- Clarifying expectations around family life, children, and finances
- Navigating relationships with in-laws and extended family
- Exploring gender role expectations and how they align in the partnership
- Enhancing intimacy and communication skills
- Developing effective conflict resolution strategies
- Discussing the role of spirituality and shared values in the marriage
Couples Counseling
We offer Couples Counseling services in New York and Connecticut to help partners navigate challenges, improve communication, and strengthen their bond. It’s normal for marriages and relationships to go through difficult periods, but how you respond to these challenges can determine whether your relationship grows stronger or drifts apart. Through professional couples therapy, we can help you rebuild trust, enhance intimacy, and rekindle your connection.
Common Issues Addressed in Couples Counseling:
Common Issues Addressed in Couples Counseling:
- Affair recovery: Healing from infidelity, cheating, or breaches of trust
- Coping with infertility stress and emotional challenges
- Addressing communication problems to foster understanding and connection
- Developing effective conflict resolution strategies
- Managing parenting challenges and resolving parenting conflicts
- Rekindling romance and rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy
- Exploring options through discernment counseling when considering separation or divorce
- Does my plan cover diagnostic code Z63.0 (Problems in relationship with spouse or partner)?
- If covered, what procedure code should be used for billing?
- How many sessions are covered, and what is the reimbursement process?
- Request this information in writing to ensure clarity.
Family Therapy
Family Therapy in New York and Connecticut is a powerful tool to address challenges that impact the emotional health and functioning of a family. Whether your family is navigating a difficult period, recovering from a crisis, or healing from past wounds, family therapy provides a supportive space to rebuild trust, strengthen connections, and promote harmony.
Benefits of Family TherapyOur family therapy services focus on creating a healthier, more connected family dynamic. Key areas we address include:
Benefits of Family TherapyOur family therapy services focus on creating a healthier, more connected family dynamic. Key areas we address include:
- Reuniting families after disruptions such as separation, relocation, or trauma
- Facilitating open and honest communication among family members
- Rebuilding trust to foster stronger relationships
- Creating a supportive family environment for emotional and mental well-being
- Reducing family stress, resentment, and tension
- Helping family members forgive and heal from past conflicts
- Resolving family conflicts with effective communication strategies
- Reconnecting estranged family members to rebuild bonds
- Strengthening relationships within blended families, stepfamilies, or adoptive families
- Developing healthy in-law relationships for smoother family integration
FAQ's
What should I expect in my first session?
Initial therapy sessions typically entail an assessment phase in which clients discuss what led them to seek treatment and any previous experience(s) in therapy. Clinical assessments are preformed and the clinician and the client will work together to develop treatment goals collaboratively. During this session the clinician also provides information regarding their therapeutic approach and confidentiality and its limits. No need to be nervous. Your main job will be to grab a cup of coffee or tea and relax while we talk about what brought you to therapy.
What is couples therapy like?
Couples therapy, often referred to as marriage counseling or couples counseling, is a collaborative and supportive process designed to help couples navigate challenges, enhance communication, and strengthen their relationship. In a typical couples therapy session, both partners actively engage in discussions guided by a trained therapist. The therapist creates a safe and non-judgmental space for open communication, allowing couples to express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Sessions may involve exploring patterns of behavior, identifying areas of conflict, and developing practical skills for resolving issues. Couples therapy is a dynamic and personalized experience, with the therapist tailoring interventions to the unique needs and goals of each couple. The ultimate aim is to foster understanding, build emotional connection, and empower couples with the tools to navigate the complexities of their relationship.
Is couples therapy worth it?
Couples therapy can be an invaluable investment in the health and longevity of a relationship, making it undoubtedly worth considering for those seeking positive change. The decision to pursue couples therapy often signifies a commitment to improving communication, resolving conflicts, and fostering a deeper connection with one's partner. The benefits extend beyond addressing immediate issues, providing couples with tools to navigate future challenges more effectively. By promoting self-awareness and mutual understanding, couples therapy contributes to personal growth and the overall well-being of the relationship. While the worth of couples therapy varies for each individual, the potential for enhanced intimacy, strengthened communication, and a more fulfilling partnership makes it a meaningful and transformative endeavor for many. At Personal Life Wellness, we believe in the power of couples therapy to facilitate positive change and guide relationships toward a healthier, more harmonious future.
What is the difference between marriage counseling and couples therapy?
The terms "marriage counseling" and "couples therapy" are often used interchangeably, but they can have nuanced differences in focus and approach. Marriage counseling traditionally emphasizes the marital relationship, with a primary focus on resolving conflicts, improving communication, and enhancing intimacy within the context of marriage. On the other hand, couples therapy is a broader term that encompasses all types of intimate relationships, not exclusively marriages. Couples therapy may address various relationship dynamics, whether couples are married, cohabiting, or in a committed partnership. Both marriage counseling and couples therapy aim to strengthen connections, but the choice of terminology often reflects the specific needs and preferences of the individuals seeking support. At Personal Life Wellness, our therapists are skilled in both marriage counseling and couples therapy, tailoring their approach to the unique dynamics and goals of each relationship.
What if my partner refuses to join me for couples therapy? Can I do couples therapy without my spouse or partner?
As Marriage and Family therapists, we treat from a systemic lens and can do couples therapy with one partner. Our focus would be working with you on what you can do to improve your relationship on your end.
What if I am undecided on whether I want to end my relationship, should I still do couples therapy?
It may be best to begin with individual therapy to assist you in assessing your desires. We also offer free 15-minute consultations where we can help you identify the best direction to go in.
How long does therapy take?
Every person, couple and family is unique and so are their circumstances, so there is no way to determine how long each client/couple or family will need to work through the feelings and challenges that led them to seek treatment. The clinicians are committed to working with clients to create a safe therapeutic space so clients can take the time needed.
How often are sessions?
Sessions generally take place once a week.
Is Mrs. Abaku a Doctor?
No, She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a Bachelor's degree from Virginia Commonwealth University and a Masters from Mercy College.
Payment
We accept cash, check, Visa, American Express, and Mastercard as forms of payment. If you have a flexible spending account (FSA) or health savings account (HSA) those can be used to pay for therapy! We do require that a valid credit card be kept on file for all clients.
What are the benefits of paying out of pocket versus going through my insurance?
Clients who pay out of pocket are guaranteed a higher level of confidentiality meaning that the only people who know any of the details of treatment are themselves and their therapist. When you bill through your insurance company they can request information exchanged in session. Insurance providers require a mental health diagnosis in order for therapy to be covered. This means that many issues (such as martial problems, life stress, or personal growth) are not covered by insurance anyway. When clients pay out-of-pocket, there is no requirement of a mental health diagnosis for treatment. It is important to consider that once a diagnosis becomes a part of your permanent medical record it can potentially effect the consideration of future policies, such as, Life Insurance, Short and Long Term Disability.
Does insurance cover couples counseling?
Most insurance plans will only cover “medical” illness and therefore do not pay benefits for couples therapy. Please contact your insurance company directly, using their phone number for mental health benefits, and ask them if you are covered for couples therapy. The biggest factor to keep in mind when using insurance for couples counseling is having a psychiatric diagnosis on your medical record. Insurance benefits can only be used for any type of counseling or therapy if an individual meets the criteria for a mental illness which falls under the distinction of "medically necessary" counseling or ''coaching to treat". These are some questions you should ask your insurer to find out if yours does:
CANCELLATION: Sessions not cancelled 24 hours before the scheduled day (48 hours for weekend appointments) will be charged the full session fee (except in cases of emergency or sudden illness). For therapy sessions, you are encouraged to reschedule your session whenever possible. Therapy Practice Late Policy: If you are running late for your appointment, please reach out as soon as possible to let me know. After 15 minutes with no communication, the appointment will be considered a no-show appointment and the cancellation fee will be charged.
Initial therapy sessions typically entail an assessment phase in which clients discuss what led them to seek treatment and any previous experience(s) in therapy. Clinical assessments are preformed and the clinician and the client will work together to develop treatment goals collaboratively. During this session the clinician also provides information regarding their therapeutic approach and confidentiality and its limits. No need to be nervous. Your main job will be to grab a cup of coffee or tea and relax while we talk about what brought you to therapy.
What is couples therapy like?
Couples therapy, often referred to as marriage counseling or couples counseling, is a collaborative and supportive process designed to help couples navigate challenges, enhance communication, and strengthen their relationship. In a typical couples therapy session, both partners actively engage in discussions guided by a trained therapist. The therapist creates a safe and non-judgmental space for open communication, allowing couples to express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Sessions may involve exploring patterns of behavior, identifying areas of conflict, and developing practical skills for resolving issues. Couples therapy is a dynamic and personalized experience, with the therapist tailoring interventions to the unique needs and goals of each couple. The ultimate aim is to foster understanding, build emotional connection, and empower couples with the tools to navigate the complexities of their relationship.
Is couples therapy worth it?
Couples therapy can be an invaluable investment in the health and longevity of a relationship, making it undoubtedly worth considering for those seeking positive change. The decision to pursue couples therapy often signifies a commitment to improving communication, resolving conflicts, and fostering a deeper connection with one's partner. The benefits extend beyond addressing immediate issues, providing couples with tools to navigate future challenges more effectively. By promoting self-awareness and mutual understanding, couples therapy contributes to personal growth and the overall well-being of the relationship. While the worth of couples therapy varies for each individual, the potential for enhanced intimacy, strengthened communication, and a more fulfilling partnership makes it a meaningful and transformative endeavor for many. At Personal Life Wellness, we believe in the power of couples therapy to facilitate positive change and guide relationships toward a healthier, more harmonious future.
What is the difference between marriage counseling and couples therapy?
The terms "marriage counseling" and "couples therapy" are often used interchangeably, but they can have nuanced differences in focus and approach. Marriage counseling traditionally emphasizes the marital relationship, with a primary focus on resolving conflicts, improving communication, and enhancing intimacy within the context of marriage. On the other hand, couples therapy is a broader term that encompasses all types of intimate relationships, not exclusively marriages. Couples therapy may address various relationship dynamics, whether couples are married, cohabiting, or in a committed partnership. Both marriage counseling and couples therapy aim to strengthen connections, but the choice of terminology often reflects the specific needs and preferences of the individuals seeking support. At Personal Life Wellness, our therapists are skilled in both marriage counseling and couples therapy, tailoring their approach to the unique dynamics and goals of each relationship.
What if my partner refuses to join me for couples therapy? Can I do couples therapy without my spouse or partner?
As Marriage and Family therapists, we treat from a systemic lens and can do couples therapy with one partner. Our focus would be working with you on what you can do to improve your relationship on your end.
What if I am undecided on whether I want to end my relationship, should I still do couples therapy?
It may be best to begin with individual therapy to assist you in assessing your desires. We also offer free 15-minute consultations where we can help you identify the best direction to go in.
How long does therapy take?
Every person, couple and family is unique and so are their circumstances, so there is no way to determine how long each client/couple or family will need to work through the feelings and challenges that led them to seek treatment. The clinicians are committed to working with clients to create a safe therapeutic space so clients can take the time needed.
How often are sessions?
Sessions generally take place once a week.
Is Mrs. Abaku a Doctor?
No, She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a Bachelor's degree from Virginia Commonwealth University and a Masters from Mercy College.
Payment
We accept cash, check, Visa, American Express, and Mastercard as forms of payment. If you have a flexible spending account (FSA) or health savings account (HSA) those can be used to pay for therapy! We do require that a valid credit card be kept on file for all clients.
What are the benefits of paying out of pocket versus going through my insurance?
Clients who pay out of pocket are guaranteed a higher level of confidentiality meaning that the only people who know any of the details of treatment are themselves and their therapist. When you bill through your insurance company they can request information exchanged in session. Insurance providers require a mental health diagnosis in order for therapy to be covered. This means that many issues (such as martial problems, life stress, or personal growth) are not covered by insurance anyway. When clients pay out-of-pocket, there is no requirement of a mental health diagnosis for treatment. It is important to consider that once a diagnosis becomes a part of your permanent medical record it can potentially effect the consideration of future policies, such as, Life Insurance, Short and Long Term Disability.
Does insurance cover couples counseling?
Most insurance plans will only cover “medical” illness and therefore do not pay benefits for couples therapy. Please contact your insurance company directly, using their phone number for mental health benefits, and ask them if you are covered for couples therapy. The biggest factor to keep in mind when using insurance for couples counseling is having a psychiatric diagnosis on your medical record. Insurance benefits can only be used for any type of counseling or therapy if an individual meets the criteria for a mental illness which falls under the distinction of "medically necessary" counseling or ''coaching to treat". These are some questions you should ask your insurer to find out if yours does:
- Specifically ask, “Do you pay for diagnostic code Z63.0 – Problems in relationship with spouse or partner”
- If they do, ask them what procedure code it should be billed under. Make them look it up and give you a reference. Ask how many sessions they will cover. Have them provide that information to you in writing.
CANCELLATION: Sessions not cancelled 24 hours before the scheduled day (48 hours for weekend appointments) will be charged the full session fee (except in cases of emergency or sudden illness). For therapy sessions, you are encouraged to reschedule your session whenever possible. Therapy Practice Late Policy: If you are running late for your appointment, please reach out as soon as possible to let me know. After 15 minutes with no communication, the appointment will be considered a no-show appointment and the cancellation fee will be charged.
