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Love, Control and Relationships

7/4/2016

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There have been so many amazing articles written on this topic, numerous studies completed but none can quite do it justice. The dynamics of power and control in relationships are ever changing, ever evolving and effectively leaving relationships broken in its wake. Where we born with the need to control others? Yes, as studies show from birth we are programmed with the ability to influence others in order to survive. Think for a moment about a hungry newborn who cries to gain its mothers attention and receive the nourishment necessary for its survival. Let's take that imagine and compare it to a husband who slaps his wife when she doesn't act in a manner satisfactory to him. What do the two have in common? Power and control. One of these relationships depicts a healthy interaction while the other does not. One is about survival and growth while the other denotes weakness and a distortion of reality. Many therapists will not work with a couple engaged in a relationship with struggles of power and control or "domestic violence relationships" as they are well known and labeled. It is widely believed that a couple must be on equal ground in order for therapy to be successful. In relationships where violence is exhibited one partner has put themselves in a position of control over the other. Few of us can but imagine being in a relationship where you feel as if walking on eggshells has become part of your existence on this earth while sadly, many of us know the intensity of such pain. It can be expressed in a word picture of holding your breath as your life depends on it while drowning in the realization that at some point you must come up for air. Once a person comes to acknowledge that the scales of power in their relationship are unbalanced and in some cases broken; it can also be quite easy to get caught and imprisoned in feelings of shame and guilt. The most difficult part of the process however is seeking help. Seeking help for many can be a arduous understanding that nothing in life is perfect, that we all at times need support and that the things we seem to love the most can hurt unbridledly. Gladly, seeking help is also accepting awareness that things can be better and with time and effort... They will be. It is possible to live again. It is possible to reclaim life, love and livelihood. Whether struggles of power and control, domestic violence or domestic abuse are part of your life at present or a haunting by ghosts of your past; now can be your opportunity to move forward. Let your wellness journey begin.

*If you are someone you know is being hurt please seek help immediately. Domestic violence is never ok. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE.
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Addressing Professional Burnout - a holistic view

7/4/2016

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It is important that we take a holistic view of self care as clinicians. For the families we serve, we hold more than a therapeutic role. In serving some cases we become an advocate, a planner, a protector, a support, a model for proper parenting, a source of transportation, a case manager, a housing representative, a sounding board, and even an object of which to take out the days frustration.
We also have to deal with stakeholder, supervisor, management, funders, timelines, feedback and numerous party expectations.
With all of these factors it is not a mystery as to why extreme stress or even burnout can occur before we are even able to address it. That is why it is important to always add the most important client to your caseload and that client is YOU! Without proper self care it becomes impossible for you to perform job duties to the best of your abilities and care for the needs of your client.
Whenever I travel on a air plane I am always keen to the reminder of the flight attendant that in case of an emergency the oxygen mask should be placed on yourself first. That is what will give you the opportunity to help others. In the social service field, we have the habit of attempting to put the mask on others first. The result? The entire system around us falls apart and we are left grasping for the pieces.
Let us make it our duty to ourselves and our clients to place the so called "oxygen mask" on ourselves first so that we can do what we came into this profession to do,.... help others.
To learn more about our burnout lecture and seminar visit us at PersonalWellness.com or send us an email inquiry at PersonalLifeWellness@outlook.com.
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Writings for Prosperity

7/1/2016

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Spotlight on Children: Help Your Children Survive your Marriage​

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Children are shown to be the family members most negativity affected by marital tension and discord. Learn how to support your children through the hardest times in your marriage.

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